Date Night 101: Tips for a First Date That Leaves a Lasting Impression

Hey girlfriend! Summer’s just around the corner, and we all know what that means—sun, fun, and a chance to meet someone new. Whether you're gearing up for a casual fling or just looking to have a good time, first dates are always a bit of a wild card. But with a little preparation and the right mindset, you can turn that first meeting into something unforgettable. Here’s what I’ve learned (after some trial and error, of course) about how to make a first date really count.

1. Build Anticipation

When planning a date, it’s nice to already know the person, but if you don't have their number yet and feel comfortable asking for it, go ahead and get in touch! This way, you can stay connected leading up to the date. Simple check-ins—whether it's a call or text—keep the excitement flowing. When I was planning my last two dates, I kept in touch a few weeks in advance, which made the anticipation feel so much sweeter. Don’t just say “yes” to a date and then go radio silent. A little communication helps remind both of you that you're looking forward to it.

2. Don’t Flake

You’ve made it through the planning stage—now, don’t bail! A lot of dates don’t even make it this far because one party backs out. If something comes up and you can’t make it, let them know as soon as possible. A last-minute cancellation or standing someone up shows a lack of respect for their time. Be courteous and offer to reschedule. That way, if you're still interested, you leave the door open for another date.

3. Be Polite

Assuming the date happens, aim to be on time. If you arrive early, consider waiting in your car so you can walk in together and avoid awkwardly sitting alone. Once you meet, be gracious—showing interest with compliments, attentive listening, and positive energy. First impressions matter, so don't miss the chance to set the tone for the date.

4. Gauge Compatibility

The goal of the date is to see if you really click. It’s easy to get distracted by our phones, but try to stay off your device and be present in the moment. While you don’t want to appear too stiff, make sure you're on your best behavior for the first date. Be presentable, practice good table manners, and pay attention to social cues.

5. Follow Up

After the date, take a moment to reflect. We often overanalyze ourselves, wondering if we said the right things or if they enjoyed our company. But before you do that, ask yourself: Did you enjoy yourself? Was the conversation easy? How did they behave around you? Would you go out with them again? This helps you assess the situation from a place of confidence. It’s fine to reach out and thank them for their time, whether or not you're interested in seeing them again. If you're lucky and both of you are feeling the vibe, go ahead and plan the next outing. Keep the positive energy flowing—being polite, relatable, and genuine will take you a long way. Who knows? You might even end up with a great new “friend”.

Remember, the goal of a first date is to have fun, get to know someone, and see if there’s a spark. No matter how it goes, be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. And if not, at least you’ve gained a great experience—and possibly a new friend. Stay confident, stay true to yourself, and keep enjoying the process!